Bullying and why it happens and is it needed today?

Bullying and why it happens

Bullying is one of the most contagious and vile things human beings do to each other. What many people fail to realize though how does it start? Some even say that bullying is beneficial and should happen more often to toughen kids up. This ideology could be one of the worst views on bullying yet.

            Bullying: how does it start? Some say its genetics, some say its past experiences and some people even say that bullies just come about naturally. However the real reason bullying happens is a little bit of all those reasons. Bullying usually starts at a very young age around 2-3 which would lean towards the genetic side. This would most likely be caused just by human instinct to defend their possessions or friends at that time. This bullying isn't usually name calling either; it's just aggression towards other kids and can be easily fixed with some discipline of that parents choice. The problem with bullying arises when the kids get a little older around 8-10. At this point in the kids life they would have experienced some things and will know what insults are and they are bigger and stronger. This leads to the real issue in bullying is the point where kids develop their personality and now make bullying their persona. Now how does bullying contrast between girls and boys? Well boys usually tend to insult each other or just get into physical fights now that they are bigger. Girls on the other hand now have started to be more subtle and use passive aggressiveness. This is usually caused by the fact that girls mature quicker than boys.

       The next reason kids bully is because of their own life or maybe their own bullies. The most common reason kids become bullies is because they have a bad home life or have drug problems. The most common occurrence with bullies is divorced parents since most of the time the kid may feel that is their fault. Divorces often make it hard on the child since the parents most often than not are trying their hardest to make the kid turn on the other parent. This presents the issue that since the kids aren't getting the attention or love they need they lash out at people.  The kids lash out on people usually smaller than them or not as smart as them. Now how do these two different types of bullies operate. Since not all bullies are big and strong, how do they bully? Most of the time these bullies will use manipulation and their lack of empathy to slowly ruin peoples lives. Now the big and strong bullies are simple to understand. They go after weaker kids than them to make themselves feel better since they usually get bullied by someone bigger and stronger than them, “usually parents”.

            Now the argument that bullies are needed now and that kids are soft. I do agree with this statement to and extent. This extent however is stopped by the fact bullying isn't what it used to be. Bullying used to be just getting hazed and made fun of by older kids which built character and gave kids a backbone. Now bullying is a vicious weapon since everything is done online. Kids will black mail other kids and will spread false rumors and now they will spread faster than they could before. Also people can use photoshop and make bad images of the victim and spread them online. The problem with this is when this happens people never forget since the post never goes away and this causes a stigma.This makes that kid believe they can't go back to that school and has to move and make new friends.

            The last reason bullies bully and most likely the main reason. The simple fact is that bullies create bullies. When another person puts another person down they create a cycle of self hate and pity. This cycle then continues through life where the bully grows up and is mean and harsh to his kids and manipulates them. The next step is that kids pick up on their parents' habits and think it’s okay to do to other people. Then the kid gets in trouble at school and the parents get called in. This is where the next problem occurs: the parents will be pissed at their kid not because they were bullying kids but because that they made them come to school and deal with it. This then makes this the only time the kid sees his parents caring about him so the kid repeats that behavior since it's the only way he can get attention. This then makes this process repeat and the only way this cycle breaks is usually if the kid changes their life by having good friends or they go into the military field or a good role model helps them.

            So bullying the thing as old as humans themselves. Also one of the most destructive things created by humans. It is done all around the world and will continue to happen. However I believe bullying is slowing down since the newest generation of kids lack one thing. That thing is, caring kids in this generation don't care what people think about them and just do what they want to do. This might be a good thing or a bad thing however the only thing we can do is wait and find out.